Counseling and psychotherapy is really all about becoming successful. Let me give you some examples.
If a person suffers from test anxiety and mentally freezes up during an exam, there is usually an underlying belief that is sabotaging good test results. Why was this belief generated, and how did it become persistent? The job of a good therapist is to find out and help the client to change this so the person becomes successful.
If a person cannot sustain a loving and mutually respectful adult relationship, there are usually underlying beliefs accompanied by some negative or traumatic experiences that are reinforcing the limiting beliefs sabotaging his or her relationships. Perhaps the person’s parents were always fighting and the person made a decision that he or she would never want to be in that kind of a relationship. Or perhaps the person was told repeatedly when growing up that he or she was stupid or in some way not good enough to be loved by another. The therapist’s job is to collaborate with the client to be detectives and uncover the core underlying limiting belief(s) and then determine if there were any traumatic events associated with and responsible for the limiting beliefs. Once uncovered, there are many different and proven approaches to change the underlying limiting beliefs and eliminate any associated negative emotional charge.
I want you to know that you can be successful in any area of your life. It is only necessary to be clear about your goals. Once you are clear, you can begin to focus on a successful outcome and positive change will happen.
Posted on July 3, 2013
Howard Brockman, LCSW
Howard Brockman
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