Howard Brockman

Therapists know about codependency– it’s a frequent occurrence in dysfunctional relationships. This particular relational dysfunction occurs in family systems from which the disorder becomes generalized to the workplace and larger institutional and corporate settings. A codependent is someone who lacks sufficient personal power to be honest with other people and speak their truth. A codependent is a person who avoids conflict at any cost, who habitually defers to others and ultimately, lives in a state of perpetual fear. This type of individual is not whole, because he or she has given away parts of themselves as a conflict avoidance adaptive strategy for maintaining the peace and staying in harmony, out of harm’s way. Consequently, they become outer referential as their first reference point rather than going within to find out what’s really the truth for themselves.Read More »Soul Stealing– An Ancient Practice That Still Happens Today

I first learned about this practice many years ago while studying with Dr. Arnold Mindell. Arny teaches process oriented psychology, better known as processwork. His model incorporates quantum physics principles, experiences dealing with altered states of consciousness as well as shamanistic states of being. I first heard the term second attention years before I began studying with Arny, during the time I was reading Carlos Castaneda’s books  while in college. I believe Arny adapted the expression since processwork is all about staying in your awareness even as many things are happening at once. Essentially, cultivating a second attention awareness means staying current with everything that’s happening both internally and externally in the moment. Read More »Cultivating Your Second Attention Awareness